WE'RE WINGING IT, AND THAT'S OKAY April 26 2016, 1 Comment
I met someone recently who had followed me online for a while, and assumed Little Nell was far bigger than it is. They thought I had staff, and that I was a proper professional, with a real studio (not a pokey attic with a bit of damp). I laughed, the thought genuinely amused me. But when I thought about it, I'm guilty of trying to portray that online, not all the time, but definitely some of the time. I always refer to Little Nell as 'we' because I finding saying 'I' a bit odd (I am not my business), and when I had a full-time job, I rarely mentioned it on Twitter for fear it would make me look less professional. My life does not look like my instagram feed, I only post the good-looking bits. (You can follow me on snapchat for the less glamorous bits @little_nells.)
The internet is full of advice, half the blog posts on my feed seem to be telling me 'How to increase your social media following' and 'Top Tips for achieving the perfect work/life balance'. I'm not against these posts, hey, I've even written some, but it can make you feel that everyone else is an expert apart from you, and it's just not true. The truth is, we're all winging it, and that's okay. I just wish sometimes we could be a bit more honest about it, without worrying about looking unprofessional, or feeling like a failure. We're all learning as we go, and some are a little further along than others. No matter how much it might look like it online, no one has completely got their shit together, and I would happily put money on the fact that even the most professional looking businesses have cocked up at least twice (but probably loads).
When I see other people's really organised studios or their super efficient daily routine, it makes me feel guilty about the fact that my desk is always a tip, I definitely start work in bed, and I've absolutely sacked the afternoon off for little other reason than the Zara sale has started. But that doesn't make me worse, or better at running my business than anyone else. I also work late, I push myself, and it might not be written down in a perfect powerpoint, but I definitely have a plan for Little Nell, (even if it's just a few bullet points in my head). You do what works for you, because you're the boss, and you know best. There are no rules about how you run your business, no rights or wrongs. Being super organised works for some people, but some of the most shambolic, disorganised people I've met are running incredibly successful businesses.
"I'm going to tell you a secret about everyone else's job: No one knows what they're doing. Deep down everyone is just faking it until they figure it out. And you will too, because you're awesome and everyone else sucks."
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